Ego trap in the spiritual world

I’ve noticed a recurring pattern of righteousness in the spiritual world—particularly among well-known healers who are convinced they are always right when it comes to others’ behaviors and emotional responses. They often believe they are not projecting their own unresolved issues onto others, but rather that the other person is the one with the problem.

This is why it’s so important to be careful about who you choose to work with. Choosing the right guide or healer requires discernment and self-awareness.

A valuable opportunity for growth—both for yourself and in assessing others—arises when someone says something that offends or hurts you. In that moment, it’s helpful to examine whether the pain is signaling something within you that needs exploration and healing. This is usually where the ego gets loud, defensive, and reactive. Or, on the other hand, you might notice a quiet, peaceful sense within your soul that says, “This isn’t mine”—a deep knowing that the issue belongs to the other person.

There’s a massive difference between the ego’s reaction and the soul’s response. The ego wants to be right. It may push you to say something in order to defend yourself or even to hurt the other. The soul, however, speaks from a calm and grounded place. If it’s truly not about you, you’ll likely feel no inner trigger, just a sense of neutrality and peace.

We live in duality—light and dark both exist in the world and within each of us. Recognizing this duality is part of spiritual maturity.

When choosing a healer or therapist, one helpful question to ask is whether they actively work on themselves, particularly on their own shadow aspects. If they do, that’s a good sign. If they don’t, or if they avoid self-reflection and shadow work, consider it a red flag.